One of the love psychologists wrote of love:
Described as a mature love affair must go through 4 stages
1) 共存（Co-dependent）
2) 反依赖（Counter dependent）
3) 独立（Independent）
4) 共生（Interdependent）
阶段之间转换的时间因人而异
Phase change between the times varies
The first stage：Co-dependent
This is the time love period
Lover hopes to get together at anytime
The second stage：Counter dependent
After the sentiment gradually stabilized
There is at least one party wish to have more spaces to do their own thing
At this moment, the other party may feel got discarded
Start inexplicably sad and lonely
The third stage：Independent
This is the continuous of second stage
Request more independent time and spaces
It is also the process adaptation and running to each other
The fourth stage：Interdependent
This time the new way to get along has been forming
Your lover is already become your dearest people
You are together and supporting each other
Together to create a part of your life
You are together but not mutual tying
You are mutual encouragement and mutual growth
However, most people could not pass the second and third stage
Choose to break up the way, and this is very unfortunate
Many things will be fine as long as good communication
Do not pique, and do not playing personality
To mutual trust and mutual understanding
This time the second and third phase will shortened
It is not easy to meet the one who you love with
So do not give up easily in any cases
They meet in a big crowd because of fate
Fell in love with each other knowing each other is intentionally
Cherish this blessing
Do not easily talk about breaking up
We will gradually become the people we love
You and he did not have anything in common
Characters are also diametrically oppose
But once in love with each other
After a certain period of time
You will feel surprising that her/his eyes look a bit like your eyes
his smile is also a bit like your smile
Your pace is somewhat similar
Tone of voice is also more and more like
Turns out that we will become the people we love
You were like the people honestly, and he/she has been frivolous
But you fell in love with
He keeps unconsciously learn to become honest
This gradually changed to adapt to your
Even his own also have not been realising
This kind of change is definitely not intentional
The longer two people love, the more similar temperament
You have ever thought that he was not the type you dream
But one day you will be surprised to find out
He has become the type you like
，
You no longer have to drive around to look,
He is the person you are looking for.
